Archive for August, 2010

August 31, 2010


So earlier this week a model posted the following in a thread about escorts.  A local model, who’s Goth, and who dresses as such on a regular basis.  She said…

Also, as for the “would you take an escort running errands, or doing x y or z?”  YES!  As a woman I rarely go far alone, you can think I’m silly if you want, however I get harassed and followed DAILY.

And honestly, I’m having a hard time wrapping my brain around this.  I really am.  Unfortunately, the thread was locked before I got a chance to reply, so I’m gracing the pages of my blog with my thoughts instead.

In the past month, I can count on one hand the number of times I was harassed.  I’ve not been followed.  Now, sure, I live in the “super-safe” Chicago suburbs, not the city, and I drive more than I walk.

But even when I worked in the city and commuted in on Metra, I was hardly followed or harassed, and most certainly not on a daily basis.  In fact, I can think of one stand-out incident, and that was actually a guy on the train into the city, who I sat next to one day and was nice to, and who suddenly started borderline-stalking me (he wanted to sit with me every day, and tried to walk me to work).  I diffused the situation by taking an earlier train in the morning, or, when I was running late, by sitting with a group of women and ignoring him.  I’ve not seen or heard from him in over 3 years.

My cousin lives in the city and teaches at a magnet school, and commutes to work via CTA and foot.  I’ve never heard her complain about being harassed or followed, and I doubt she’d have had a kid while living in the city if she felt so threatened.  She doesn’t bring her husband with her everywhere she goes either, even when she’s with the baby.

This isn’t the first time this model and have I had different experiences.  Awhile back she posted complaining about photographers belittling her and pressuring her to do nudes, and telling her she’d never “make it” unless she got naked.  At the time, her profile was full of implied nudes, lingerie, bodypaint and a few not-nude-but-risque images.  So yea, of course people are going to ask her to shoot nudes or pressure her for it.  She obviously isn’t afraid to get nude of bodypaint, or get sexy, or put electrical tape X’s over her nipples and prance around in a thong, so what difference does it make? In the meantime, I rarely get pressured for nudes, because I don’t have photos up that suggest I’d be willing to shoot nudes (or where I’m already nude or nearly so).  FWIW though, she’s now shooting nudes.


To this model direct, I suggest that maybe, just maybe you have a problem because the way you dress commands attention.  Perhaps, if you’re starting to question your safety on a daily basis, you need to consider making a change, either to your lifestyle or your daily wardrobe.  I know it can be a hard thing to do, but IMO, if you’re putting yourself in danger daily, and it’s making you uncomfortable to the point of having to bring someone with you everywhere you go, then perhaps it’s time to just suck it up and make a change.

FWIW, I’ve had issues with 2 photographers in the past 4+ years I’ve been modeling.  The first issue was at my first shoot, and I had someone there with me, and the photographer was trying to pressure me into wearing his ex’s lingerie.  I left the shoot early.  The second was an ongoing thing over AIM and texts, where the photographer wanted to make out, and when turned down, wanted me to take photos of him and his girlfriend having sex.  I simply blocked him on AIM and stopped answering his text messages.  I’ve not had contact with either photographer since, and will give honest “I had a problem, this is what happened” feedback if asked about them.

Escorts on the other hand, have hit on me, made me feel uncomfortable by giving me the evil eye, and have even rummaged through my stuff at group events.  Not cool one bit, and escorts are not allowed at events I host because I don’t want to put others in uncomfortable situations.  Especially after a model hired an armed bodyguard for a M&G (not even a shoot, a meet and greet) held at a public place (Portillo’s restaurant, for those familiar with Chicagoland).  On a Saturday evening, at 7P.  We didn’t even have a private party room.   Give me a fucking break!

August 30, 2010

First Shoot Advice

Awhile back I wrote an article here on first shoot advice for models.  I’ve taken that blog and expanded on it a tad bit, and have published it on Examiner.  Check it out…

First shoot advice for new models

August 20, 2010

The Importance of Proper Undergarments

A couple things spawned this examiner article.  The first was a new model I worked with who only brought a grey leopard print bra to the shoot, and wasn’t comfortable taking it off.  The second was a fashion show I was recently in, where I saw a girl modeling a white dress in a hot pink thong (guess how I knew it was hot pink?  It’s not because I saw her changing…), and where I saw visible panty lines on every 3rd model.  Yikes!

So, here we have it, folks.  Examiner article #3:

The importance of proper undergarments

August 17, 2010

Examiner Update

So apparently things are working again over at Examiner.  My articles can be found here:

I’m not sure if my old links to my articles work though… but I do know they are working on it and they should work soon.

Thanks for your patience!

Oh, and if you have any article requests, please feel free to let me know via comment or email!

August 16, 2010

Examiner Links

Yes, my Examiner links are broken.  Apparently, they rolled out a new site design and effed something up in the process.  I don’t know when things will be fixed or what.


August 12, 2010

More DIY Wonders

Not too long ago I posted about some fabulous DIYers out there.  Here are some more!

To check out my first list of DIY stuff, click here.

August 11, 2010

Fall Shoe Trends: Are You Ready? released their 2010 fall shoe trend list.  Here it is, minus the pics:

  1. Military
  2. Clogs
  3. Cuffed Boots
  4. Desert Boots
  5. Over-The-Knee Boots
  6. Oxfords
  7. Platform Pumps
  8. Hardware Details
  9. Animal Prints
  10. Frosty Fashion

Me?  I’ve got a pair of military boots on their way to me right now (they’ll be here Friday).  I don’t have clogs, but I have a couple pairs of cuffed (or cuffable) boots.  I have OTK boots, both flat and heeled (yay for those, because they’re new and hot!).  I have oxfords, though they need to be stretched a tad bit.  I do have platform pumps, but they’re more MaryJane style.  I don’t really have hardware-detailed shoes, but am planning on making something for a pair of booties that need spicing up.  I don’t have animal print or frosty fashion (do Ugg-type boots count?), and I’m ok with that.  So, as far as the trends go, I feel like I’m pretty set for fall 🙂

If you’re looking to add some of these looks to your closet this fall, check out my picks for each trend.  Each pic is a link direct to the item on various sites.  I’ve kept each pair under $50, ’cause hey, I get not wanting to spend a lot of money on trends 🙂  Also, some of my picks overlap trends, which is cool… and most are available in other colors too, just so you know.



Cuffed Boots

Desert Boots
This is the only section I was unable to keep it under $50 😦 Sorry!

Over-The-Knee Boots


Platform Pumps

Hardware Details

Animal Prints

Frosty Fashion

To check out the list with pics, go here.
The above linked items were chosen by me with no pay or endorsement requests from the stores.
August 10, 2010

How To Article: Keeping Track of Your Stuff

Over the weekend the MUA and I were talking about keeping track of stuff on shoots, and stuff going missing.  And yes, I’ve had stuff go missing on shoots (usually group events).  I’ve also had people borrow stuff without asking, and have forgotten stuff after a shoot.  I’ve come up with a pretty good system for keeping track of things.  A combination of labeling everything, making a list, and having a recognizable bag start it off.  To read more, check out my newest Examiner article:

Keeping track of your stuff

August 7, 2010

Changin’ in up a bit…

New header and layout.  Figured it was about time.

My header image is by Christian G Carlson.  If you’re a fan, become one on Facebook 🙂  Oh, and my awesome hair and makeup?  Christin C did that.  You can fan her too 😉

August 6, 2010

New Bill Could Protect Designers From Being Knocked Off

New Bill Could Protect Designers From Being Knocked Off; “Great first step for designers,” says Leading Intellectual Property Lawyer.

Interesting read.  Any thoughts?

I’m not sure how I feel about it just yet… I need to think some more.

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